Child Custody Tips Parents Should Know During A Custody Dispute
9.7.17 | Child Custody
About to get a divorce or enter into a Child Custody battle? These tips can seriously help you with your child custody case in Las Vegas.
1) Get your documentation ready: If you’re in a situation where you truly believe that your children aren’t safe with the other parent, then you need to document any interactions that you have with your ex, on top of any interactions he or she has with the kids. If there’s a history of things like physical abuse, you need evidence for the court. Without evidence it’s just your word vs. your ex’s. Be prepared for the fact that the other parent might hold the same feelings about you and is getting similar documentation ready. Keep in mind that all text messages and emails between both you and your significant other are admissible in Court and can be used against either party. Also keep in mind that any pictures from places like Facebook, Pinterest and Instagram can also be used as evidence against you or your significant other. Thus, if you are even thinking about starting a custody case, you need to check your own social media profiles and delete anything you think that could harm you and, in the alternative, collect everything that could be used against the other party that might be harmful. Trust me, they are doing it to prepare themselves against you!
2) You should demonstrate some willingness to work things out with your ex: This might be the hardest child custody tip Las Vegas parents going through a divorce or child custody case should know. You’ve decided to end your marriage or fight over custody of your kids. Keep in mind that no matter how much you might not like your ex, that person still is very relevant and present for your kids and they will always be tied to you until your kids emancipate, so you should show the court that you recognize that by always indicating to the court that you are willing to try and work out at least some issues in the case. A demonstrated unwillingness to never negotiate with another parent and never work out anything might make the court decide to give the other parent primary custody of the kids just based on the total unwillingness of one parent to co-parent with the other parent.
3) Always exercise your timeshare with your kids and always follow any order the court sets forth: Take advantage of any visitation/custody rights you’ve been granted in all circumstances. Spend all the time you can with your kids, so you can be sure that they’re still maintaining a routine order through their days, be it chores or homework. Your failure to do so can be used against you and could cause the Judge to reduce your time or change the custody order based on the time you actually have been taking with the children. If you do not follow the Court’s order it can be used against you.
4) Keep in mind that perception is reality: So many divorce proceedings turn into he said, she said, and it’s almost impossible for a court to know who is telling the truth. You might know bald-faced lies are being spoken about you, but the court might believe them to be true. Counter this possible trap by making the court believe you are a loving and involved person in your children’s lives who is capable of good parenting. Arrive on time to your court hearings. Dress appropriately and respectfully. Demonstrate and practice proper courtroom etiquette when in front of your judge and never interrupt the judge!
5) Never refuse a request of the court: You might get asked to seek out counseling or even take parenting classes by the judge. Do so without argument or delay. It’s a chance to show the court, your ex, and your kids what you’re actually willing to do for them. In a way it’s a test by the judge as well. The judge is testing how you follow orders. It is also a means for the judge to obtain the information that he or she needs to make the ultimate custody decision in the courtroom. Thus, if the judge asks you to do something, remember what he or she asked and do it in a timely manner.
6) Don’t make things up to try and win custody: Unfounded allegations of your ex’s abuse or exaggerating their shortcomings are lies that can often be proved as false, which will backfire on you hard. You’ll also set a horrible example for your kids and possibly breach their trust irrevocably. Remember, if your ex can prove one thing is a lie in court, then why should the judge believe anything else that you have to say.
Now that you know some great child custody tips you can make sure your kids aren’t overly hurt during the process as well as stand up for your own rights and meet your personal responsibilities. Good luck to you and your family during this trying time and give me a call if you need help with your child custody case. I am an expert who has been doing this for 19 years. If you want to read more on child custody issues learn more here.